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Maybe Laughter is the Best Medicine

I spent the weekend catching up with college friends, reminiscing about the things we did back when we were crazy twentysomethings. For the past two years, we have met up annually to check in with one another and generally try to reconnect.

It's a crazy three days, where everything seems to go by too quickly, where we laugh until our sides and faces hurt, where we forget about our adult responsibilities and focus on packing a lot of memories in that short span of time.

Each time I leave the cabin where we meet, I make a vow to keep up the communication with these folks who are friends from my earliest adult life. Last year, I let the contact dwindle until we were ready to plan the reunion once again, but we all picked up right where we had left off when our planning began.

This time, I want it to be different. This time, I want to remember those long conversations with people who helped shape me as I entered adulthood, the people who shared most of my proudest moments in colleges …

The Long Way Around

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A friend of mine, and fellow infertility blogger, Jess has encouraged me to seek some avenues to expand the readership of my blog. Today's post is an experiment in this, as I am taking part in "Microblogging Mondays" as part of the blogging community. 

As I was getting ready for work this morning, I was thinking about the long way around and how, in my life, it seems like that is precisely what gets me to my destination, at least most of the time. I refused to date my now husband for the first year I knew him. I attained a degree in English and political science, then went to grad school in professional communication instead of taking the direct route to become a teacher. I have lived in 4 states and even more residences before deciding to make the commitment and buy a house. I guess it is only fitting that our path to parenthood is taking us on the scenic route instead of the direct path.

Though I am a West Virginia girl who enjoys a good, road trip on some old County R…

The Infertility Double Standard

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I'm participating in Amateur Nester's Infertility Link-Up today, so I have submitted this blog that seemed to be pretty well received in the last week or so.


When folks read my blog, overwhelmingly, the reactions are positive. People are supportive and empathetic, two things I value so much in my friends and family. However, when I begin to look beyond my closest circle of friends and family, to engage with the world at large, too many times I seem to find a lack of understanding, and often, a complete lack of compassion.
In recent days, there was a specific instance that highlighted how misunderstood those of us facing infertility truly are, even in our twenty-first century world.
Yesterday, I opened a link to an article about the inadequacy of fertility options in Washington State, an article that was highlighted on the newsfeed for Resolve. The article wasn't anything spectacular-- it simply stated the truth. For most couples facing infertility, most states in our count…

No Match for a Mountaineer

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I've said it before and I'll say it again. Maybe it's just the teacher in me, but my struggle with infertility has taught and continues to teach me things about myself and about the world around me. Maybe some of you wish I could turn off the infertile commentary, but I just can't. It's my world, and I feel like I should share some of that with you.

Over the past two years, I have struggled with decisions I never thought I would have to make. I've asked things of myself and my husband I never thought I would. In truth, we could be in for much more before all is said and done.

From the onset, one big thing has bothered me. It's the proverbial elephant in the room. As with most of those elephants, no one wants to address it. However, I'm going to take Randy Paush's advice and introduce it.

Having PCOS and subsequent infertility was never a choice.

Not even a little bit.

My insurance company sure thinks so, as is evidenced by their lack of adequate tre…

My Voice and the #VoicesofPCOS

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I'm pretty excited about today.

Why?

Today, I've been given a guest blogging spot at The Infertility Voice for their #VoicesofPCOS series the folks over there are featuring this month.

For those of you who might not know, September is PCOS Awareness Month. PCOS is a medical condition that affects millions of women, impacting their physical health, their self-image as well as their fertility. In fact, PCOS is one of the leading causes of infertility in women today.

Most of you might not be aware I have suffered with PCOS for quite some time. In fact, I didn't even realize what PCOS was and how it was affecting me until I met Dr. S a little over two years ago.

So, yes, I am one of the Voices of PCOS 2014.

Long story short, even if you aren't a regular reader of the blog, check out this post, A String of Pearls I Could Live Without.

If you need further incentive to go read (what are you still doing here, anyway??), here you go.  First of all, Keiko and the folks at The I…