Screaming INFERTILE
Today, one of my students started a conversation that I never thought a seventh grader would engage in-- he asked me if I will ever adopt a child.
I don't know why he assumed I can't have children. I definitely don't talk about infertility with my students, no do I suspect he has any evidence of it. But, today, he asked if I would ever adopt a child because he was sure I would be good at being a mom since I would be "just strict enough."
I didn't get angry, I didn't get upset, and honestly, it didn't really bother me. I told him it was a very personal question to ask someone and I shrugged it off with a "who knows what life has in store for any of us" kind of comment. But, as I am prone to do, his comment pushed me into more thought.
Is there something about me that just screams INFERTILE? How did he know?
I don't know why he assumed I can't have children. I definitely don't talk about infertility with my students, no do I suspect he has any evidence of it. But, today, he asked if I would ever adopt a child because he was sure I would be good at being a mom since I would be "just strict enough."
I didn't get angry, I didn't get upset, and honestly, it didn't really bother me. I told him it was a very personal question to ask someone and I shrugged it off with a "who knows what life has in store for any of us" kind of comment. But, as I am prone to do, his comment pushed me into more thought.
Is there something about me that just screams INFERTILE? How did he know?
Yikes! That comment would make me paranoid, too. At least he thinks you'd be a good mom?
ReplyDeleteI hope that's it!!
DeleteOh the things kids say -- even in the 7th grade! Sounds like you handled it really well. It's so hard when people put us fertile-y challenged people in the spot light like that. It's happened to me more times than I can count.
ReplyDeleteI usually handle it with grace... I've practiced during my nearly decade long teaching career. But, some days are harder than others, that's for sure!
DeleteOuch! I know that stung! There is nothing that take the sting out that comment. Those kind suck monkey butt. (Hugs)
ReplyDeleteThanks! He's a good kid, so I know it came from a good place. It's just a crazy coincidence with the IF.
DeleteThat precious student must think so highly of you! The things that kids come up with crack me up!
ReplyDeleteI always think I connect more than kids because I teach English. They have to open themselves up and be vulnerable in writing, so I learn more about them. In turn, I guess they feel more comfortable asking me questions.
DeleteKids intuition? Or maybe he just saw something about adoption on tv and it was on his mind!
ReplyDeleteWho knows? Sometimes they come up with the most random stuff!
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